Some of these tips are easy. Some require a little spade work. Let me begin with the easy tips and end with the trickier ones. If you get stuck, some of the tips are linked to detailed information.
OK, so these are the tips:
Express your heart
Nearly all psychologists agree that talking to people can have a huge impact on our mood. It depends on what you talk about.
- Find a real human (if you are staying at home in the pandemic, in your house!) and talk face to face. If you can’t, phone is better than social media.
- Talk about your feelings. Not sports, or politics. About you.
- Ask people about how they are doing BEFORE you spill your guts.
- Practice active responsive listening. It is an amazing way to build deeper relationships. After that, you may find it much easier to express your feelings. This is a funny video about how not to do it.
Practice acts of kindness
This is one of the biggest secrets to finding happiness. Small acts of kindness can do wonders. Kindness math is weird. My happiness equation: Happiness = (Acts of kindness)2
- Some examples:
- Call a relative who lives alone.
- Wave and smile at a neighbor (from at least six feet away!)
- Express gratitude. That works wonders.
- If you need more ideas visit randomactsofkindness.org
- Some examples:
Great news: Regular exercise has a powerful impact on mood. The bad news (well, it's not that bad): It takes about two weeks to a month to work, especially if you are a couch potato. As the days go by your body will begin to generate endorphins, natural "feel happy" opioids. So yes, regular exercise is habit forming!
- If you want to boost your mood, exercise for about half an hour at least three days per week.
- It doesn't matter what kind of exercise you do. Depending on your age and fitness, you can walk briskly, jog, do yard work, exercise on the spot, or clean the house! Ask your doctor before doing something challenging.
- Aerobic exercise is best if you are fit.
- You don't need to go nuts. Have fun. Changing pace seems to work too.
Find your flow
Can you think of a creative activity that is challenging but that you love doing? Many kinds of activities, such as sports, playing an instrument, or writing, can produce the joyful experience of Flow. Like exercise, finding happiness through flow takes a little work. You need to cultivate your skills, step by step.
- How do you find a flow activity? Think about something that
- 1. You love doing
- 2. Is creative
- 3. Requires skill
- It takes a while to cultivate the skills. If you're in a hurry to find flow, don't pick brain surgery. Try something like hiking or gardening.
- The challenges should fit your skills. If you take up the violin, don't begin with Rachmaninoff.
Now try taking our happiness skills quiz.
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- If you do not become happier, we well send you a full refund. Oh, I forgot. This is free. Seriously, if you know something that we don't, tell us how we can improve.